Knocking Myself Up: A Memoir of My (In)Fertility

Tea (How To Grow Up) takes readers on a whirlwind ride of a complicated conception and pregnancy. While there is no shortage of information about pregnancy available to twenty-first century readers, Tea’s experience is a uniquely queer and feminist one that is rarely at the forefront of these discussions. The journey takes the proverb “It takes a village to raise a child” very seriously with the addendum that it takes a village to conceive one, too. Tea’s decision to be a mom reverberates through so many lives as they gather around to love and support her through the process. Never the one to mince words, Tea’s prose is florid with personal descriptions of each part of the process: from the initial decision, the complications, a dozen of life pivots, to the eventual birth of her son. For readers learning about the more technical (and sometimes grisly) side effects of fertility treatments and pregnancy for the first time, Tea’s exuberance and zest for the experience will hopefully offer solace.