“Can’t you two just get along” and “You’re just like your father,” phrases often heard coming out of parents’ mouths, are chapter titles in this book designed to bring arguing siblings from conflict to closeness. Caspi (family science and human development, Montclair State Univ.;
Sibling Aggression) views sibling squabbles as an entire family issue, with parents being the key to restoring connections among children. He argues that parents must first take care of themselves before they help their children learn to self-regulate, preventing disagreements before they even start. But that doesn’t mean, he asserts, that all arguments stem from a problematic family dynamic. Preparing for conflict before it even occurs, managing challenges when they do happen, dealing with perceived favoritism, avoiding comparison, and addressing one’s own biases are dominant themes in this book. Caspi’s research indicates that solid sibling relationships are crucial throughout life and are linked to stronger bonds later on with peers and romantic partners, thriving health, and happiness.
VERDICT This helpful resource addresses the number-one behavioral issue presented to pediatricians. It’s designed mostly for parents but is also a great tool for mental health professionals and educators.