The Only Way Through Is Out: A Memoir

Book coach and LGBTQIA+ advocate Mullen debuts with a vulnerable and compelling memoir tracing the events that precipitated her later-in-life coming-out. By many accounts, recent empty-nester Mullen appeared to have a perfect life—a loving husband, two successful adult sons, an oceanfront home, and a circle of friends, including a “heart friend” with whom she shared a special bond. While writing a different memoir, Mullen was shaken by the understanding that her carefully constructed outer persona was at odds with her true self. She came to see that she had been in love with her best friend, Reenie, for decades; this startling, upsetting, exhilarating, but undeniable realization set her on a path toward privately and publicly recognizing herself as a lesbian. Shawna Wolf narrates Mullen’s story, giving voice to her doubts and fears as well as her tenacity and determination. Wolf’s narration is serviceable, but her awkward pacing detracts from the flow. The warmth of Mullen’s writerly voice isn’t fully communicated in the audio, but even so, listeners will likely be moved by her courage and generous spirit.